Whitney wrote:
So...My MOH lives in California, I live in Arizona, and my wedding is in South Lake Tahoe. I love her to death and I knew we could make it work because we're bffs and that's what we do! In order to make this work seemlessley I decided to make my FSIL my Matron of Honor. She lives in AZ and we are best friends as well and I wanted to take some stress off of MOH. WELLLLL...she just dropped the bomb on us that she is moving to New York in June with her husband (FH's best man). She has been putting off the move for about 6 years now and I may be super selfish for saying this, but couldn't she have put it off for another 7 months? Would that be SO hard? So now I'm having to rely on my bridesmaids who are not the "honored ones" to do everything, and I don't even know if I'll have someone out here to plan any bridal showers/bachelorette parties. I would LOVE to think that the two of them could make it to everything, but we're already doing a destination wedding which is expenisive for guests and neither of them have jobs or money to get plane tickets 3 times in the next year.
What is a girl to do?!
Melissa Wrote: Asking someone to put off a major life event like moving just because of your wedding is selfish. You don't know their reasons, and just because they've put it off for awhile doesn't mean they can longer. If I were a MOH or bridesmaid, and I was told something like that...I'd quit. There's many reasons to move and cross-country won't be easy, let them do it when they think it works best for them. It could very well be hard to wait longer. Be glad she gave you that much notice! I'm sure she also wouldn't want to be moving right around your wedding...that would be even harder. Not everyone has a bridal shower or bachelorette party either...it's not the end of the world to miss it. It sounds like your girls are already going to be shelling out alot of money when they don't have much to begin with, be grateful for that!
Lori: So my MOH and my have been bff's for 8 years now. Since we were freshmen in High School. She got married about 2.5 years ago and just reciently bought a house about 2 months ago.
Well i got engaged in july and around october she told me she and her husband were trying to get pregnant. I told her i was happy but asked her if she could possibly put it off till closer to the wedding so she's not so big bc i am getting my girls dresses sepically made for my wedding bc i couldn't find anything i liked. And the we wanted to be pregnant together. I didnt think it was a bad request bc we are getting married July 9th 2011.
Well i get a text this morning saying ur going to be a god mother and im going to be a mommy. I said congrats and happy for you but now im having to redo her dress completely bc the style i picked just dont work on a pregnant woman at all.
Also she only weighs maybe 105 which means she can have the bby early or even be on bed rest for my wedding where she will be around 8 or 9 months at now.
I do not know wat to do. Should i take the risk and just see what happens and then maybe have to change stuff at the last minute or should i make back up plans???
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